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What do you want and how bad do you want it?

Think for a minute about what you want.

Complete the statement:

I want …

Do you want to lose weight, get a better job, hike The Alps, learn a new language, run a marathon, learn to play the cello, start a business, plant a garden?

Maybe you want something else, like a new car or a new house.

What do you want to do? To see? To be?

Decide what you want.

Now think about this: How bad do you want it? Are you okay with some level of discomfort to get what you want? And are you ready to work for it?

Photo courtesy of pixabay published on strong-woman.comIt’s easy to say we want something and it’s just talk. We speak before thinking about what it takes to get it. Most of the time it turns out we don’t want it bad enough to work for it, or to sacrifice something else (time, money) to get it. (Or is that just me?)

So how do you figure out what you really want?


When my daughter was around 3 or 4, she and her cousin would watch cartoons and see dozens of commercials for toys and games. After nearly every commercial, they’d say to eachother, “I want that. Becca, you buy me that?” “Yeah, Nae, you buy me that?”

“Yep.”


They were small children. They wanted everything they saw. As adults, we know we don’t get something for nothing, but we can still get stuck in that mentality of wishing for stuff, but never taking steps toward making them a reality.

We say we want something without thinking about what it will take to get it.

What does it take?

Money, time, blood, sweat, tears?

If you’re not willing to endure some discomfort and sacrifice to get what you want, then it’s more of a wish than a want.

What’s the difference between wishing for something and wanting it?

A wish is something you throw out there without taking action to make it happen. It’s that thing you look at with a sigh and say, “Someday”, but never start.

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But let’s be real.

If you want something, you’re going to have to work for it. Don’t wait around for someone to hand it to you. Decide what you want and then go for it. Take action towards that goal.

You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great. 

~ Zig Zigler

Be grateful for the desire, for the dream you desire and let that move you forward. Work toward your goal every day. Stop making excuses about why it can’t happen.

When you say you want something, it’s not real until you decide you’re willing to give up your time, money, pride, fear, prestige …something.

When you say “I want this or I want that,” it’s just a wish if you don’t follow that up with… “and this is how I’m going to get it. This is my plan.”Photo courtesy of pixabay commons published on strong-woman.com

Sometimes it takes risk and belief. Sometimes it takes a leap of faith to move in the direction of your dreams. It may get uncomfortable, but that’s temporary.

You decide if it’s worth it.

So with that in mind, complete the statement:

I want…

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Discover the Value of Your Intuition

“The only real valuable thing is intuition.”  Albert Einstein

We all have it. It’s that gut feeling when you know something’s true even if you can’t explain it.  That feeling when you’re faced with a decision and you know exactly and without a doubt what you must do; when you absolutely know the right course of action.

It’s more than a hunch.

Intuition is brilliant. A guiding force. Always present, right, and true.

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Intuition is always true.

The beautiful thing is that you don’t have to do anything to get it. You already have it. All you have to do is listen.

But listening can be so, so, so hard.

Listen and you go down one road. Don’t hear, not sure, or ignore your intuition and you go down a different road.

It’s been my experience that

  • it’s better to follow, even though it’s scary
  • there’s usually a price to pay for not listening
  • intuition doesn’t hold a grudge; she will always speak to you again.

It’s your guide, your North Star.

Yes, it’s scary. I know.

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Which will you choose?

Your head screams at you:

  • What if it doesn’t work out.
  • And what if _______ happens
  • What are people going to say
  • You’re going to look stupid
  • You don’t know how to do _______
  • Think about the people you’ll disappoint.

That’s fear of the unknown and the unknown can be scary.

Einstein says intuition is the “only real valuable thing”.

Even though it must have played a huge role in his life and in his body of work, he probably had to learn to follow just like everybody else. He probably had days when he doubted himself. Doesn’t everyone?

What would happen if you discovered the value in the simplicity of listening to your intuition.

Where would it lead? 

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What to do when doubt gets in your head

What do you do when doubt creeps in? It can spoil your confidence and sour your mood.

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Doubt can creep up from inside of you. It may start small like a hint of something that causes you to second-guess yourself. A word from someone you don’t even know could trigger it. Maybe it’s a re-play of a recording of negative messages that you’ve heard over and over your whole life.

Whatever the source, you’re not alone.

Doubt happens. 

It happens to everyone. At work and in relationships. Even as a parent. Here you are doing your best, and then something happens, and then you’re like, “Oh my God. I’m a terrible mom. I don’t know what I’m doing.” You’re just filled doubt.photo courtesy of pixabay commons published on strong-woman.com

How can you keep doubt from beating you down?

Let go of perfection. It’s okay if you’re not perfect.

As long as you’re doing the best you can, just keep doing it.

You may need to tweak a few things. Who doesn’t? It’s okay.

Tweaking is part of the process. But whatever you do, don’t trash your project. Don’t think you’re no good or that whatever you’re working on is crap. 

Recognize doubt, be okay with it, and let it pass.

Re-group. Nurture yourself. Encourage yourself. (Click here to read a previous post about giving and receiving encouragement.)

Learn more if you need to. Do research on the subject. Read about it. There’s always more to learn. We get into trouble when we think we know it all.

Talk it out with someone you trust. Don’t keep it to yourself. Sometimes it helps to hear you’re not alone.

Don’t get stuck in the dark tunnel of doubt where you can’t see where you’re going and the immediate future seems uncertain. Just keep moving. You’ll get to through the darkness as long as you keep moving forward.

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What are you working on?

The more complete questions is: What are you working on for your happiness?

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What are you working on to make your life more fulfilling?

It’s Labor Day, the day dedicated to the American worker. People are generally good at laboring at a job. But what about laboring toward your personal growth and happiness?

Are you prepared to answer the question?

While your response may be related to your job (i.e. going to school to further your career), it doesn’t have to be.

Maybe you’re working on breaking a habit, like eating sweet snacks every day. Or maybe you’re working on starting a habit, like exercise or reading books.

After that, you can start working on making that hiking trip you’ve always dreamed of (or some other cool project) a reality.

None of this is ground-shifting stuff. It may not make the news or go viral on social media, but if it’s important to you, it’s important and worth your effort.Photo courtesy of pixabay commons published on strong-woman.com

When are you going to start working on your happiness? Do you have personal goals that you haven’t started working toward?

Life is too short to wait.

Happy Labor Day!

Today and every day, work on something that contributes to your personal goals and happiness.