The other day I was super excited about my first meeting with a bloggers Meet Up I had joined. I still consider myself a baby blogger and I couldn’t wait to hear about their blogging experience, to share ideas, and learn from them.
I showed up at the designated time and location ready to meet these fellow bloggers and realized I didn’t know what they looked like. How would I recognize them? I asked a few people if they were there for the bloggers Meet Up. Nope. Not them.
Never mind, I thought. I found a table and decided to open my laptop and get ready to work while I waited for my fellow bloggers. It was then that I saw the messages that had come in as I was en-route to the meeting. People were sick or couldn’t make it, so the meeting was cancelled 5 minutes after I arrived.
I felt crushed. I thought, man, I was so looking forward to this! Come on! I’m not sick! I’m here! What the heck?
I’d been looking forward to this meeting for weeks and built up my expectations for this awesome chance to connect with these people. I was totally bummed.
After calling my husband to commiserate, having my pity party, and feeling downright sad that the meeting was cancelled, it hit me.
How blessed am I that I have the luxury of being upset about this meeting being cancelled? I considered the things that got me to that moment, including waking up healthy, having a car, a phone, food, and an opportunity to blog in the first place.
Instead of focusing on the dozens of things that went right that day, I focused on the one thing that had gone wrong.
That put things in perspective.
Miracle of the moment
When we look at what’s wrong, we can’t see what’s right. We miss the miracle of the moment.
Sometimes things don’t go our way and we feel disappointed and discouraged. We struggle to maintain good spirits, happiness, gratitude, and hope.
Our frustration prevents us from seeing what an amazing gift it is to be disappointed over some small thing, some minor setback – an anticipated meeting being cancelled, a slow internet connection, a traffic jam, our team losing a big game, or a gazillion other things.
All we can ever be sure of is right now. Tomorrow is not guaranteed for any of us.
We get caught up in the daily busy-ness of life. Sometimes we’re pulled in so many different directions that things get complicated. With everything we need to do, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed.
We struggle to live in the moment and pay attention to the miracle of today, to act with a spirit of gratitude for love of family and friends, food on the table, and basic needs met. We forget how blessed we are to have the luxury of feeling frustrated over small things.
Do these 4 things to help you shift your perspective when you’re feeling frustrated, discouraged, or disappointed:
Take a deep breath.
Count your blessings.
Choose to focus on what’s right in your world.
So many things are out of our control. The best we can hope to do is control our attitude, emotions and actions every day. Looking through a lens of gratitude doesn’t change anything except how you see things.
The choice is yours.