Going Gray – Stage 1

About 8 weeks into the "no color" project
About 8 weeks into the “no color” project

I decided to stop coloring my hair. Yes, it will be gray. Or silver. Whatever you want to call it, my hair won’t be brown. Long gone are the days of my natural brunette hair that God gave me.

Years of Color

I think I was in my early thirties when I first noticed a few gray strands. Somewhat unwisely, I used to pay my kids to hunt and pull the grays and they were happy to do it. They got a nickel for each gray strand.

When there were just too many to pull, I figured I’d rather be gray than bald so I stopped that routine and started a new one –  dying my hair. I started off with at-home out-of-the-box dye, then tried the stuff from the beauty supply store, but I never liked doing it myself. The process was messy, smelly, and marginally successful. Eventually, I started visiting the salon regularly to let a professional do the job, until I didn’t want to do that anymore either.

Decide Already!

I’d been thinking about doing it for a while. I’d read articles about going gray and looked at numerous hairstyles for women who kicked the coloring habit. I think I really was looking to see for myself if I thought gray haired women can possibly look “not old”. I decided that I can’t decide what I’ll look like by seeing what other people look like. It’s a personal thing and I’m going to have to see for myself whenever I could muster the courage to do it.

And then I talked to my friend Kathleen who I haven’t seen in a long time and she said that she had stopped coloring her hair. She seemed really happy with the results and she inspired me to go for it.

So I decided to stop coloring my hair.

Here are a few of my reasons:

  • I hated sitting there with goop in my hair while the dye processed. I felt ridiculous.
  • My hair was growing so fast I was having to get touch-ups every 4 weeks or so.
  • I was ready to have healthy, non-treated hair. I hope that it will feel soft and healthy.
  • I’ve seen  women with gray hair who look strong and healthy, even though they’re not young, but not old.
  • Curiosity – I want to see what I look like.

I had my final color touch-up in November 2015.

To help me through the transition, I got a new hairstyle and had about 5 inches cut off. That took some getting used to, but I like the shorter style now. The gray’s starting to come in a little more and I may go for some highlights or temporary color to ease me through the transition.

Truthfully, I’m not sure I’m going to like the new look. I feel determined to see this project through even though it may take a while to get used to

8 thoughts on “Going Gray – Stage 1

  • February 10, 2016 at 1:19 pm

    I think I’m going to join you. I’m not really sure how gray will look on my curls or how long it will take now that my hair is the longest it’s ever been…I was thinking of waiting until I hit my sixties but I think I’m ready.

    • February 11, 2016 at 12:13 am

      That’s excellent! It’s funny how you kind of know when you’re ready and then it’s just a matter of letting it grow and finding the best transition for you, like a new hairstyle, highlights, temporary color, etc. I’d love to hear about your progress : )

  • February 10, 2016 at 1:55 pm

    Your article is thought provoking. We really do have a choice. All the power to you! I trust you will find the perfect fit for you.

    • February 11, 2016 at 12:15 am

      Thank you! We’ll see how it turns out : )

  • February 10, 2016 at 2:50 pm

    I love your drive to see this through and I love you more! Remember God will shine through any color!

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  • February 11, 2016 at 1:43 am

    I love this. Confidence is the most beautiful attribute one can have. You are beautiful with or w out gray and most naturally elegant. I think going gray is a personal preference and does not define you or your looks. I remember my first few gray strands in my early 20’s and thought if gray is what I get from my dad , it sure beats diabetes that runs in the family. Thanks for sharing

    • February 11, 2016 at 3:07 am

      Thank you! Yep, I agree. Gray hair beats diabetes for sure!

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