Have you ever felt like you’re on someone else’s path? Like you’ve bought tickets to a movie and gone into the dark theatre only to find out you’re in the wrong movie.
Wonderful. Now what do you do?
You have a choice:
- Stay where you are and watch a movie you didn’t intend to watch.
- Gather your things, and go look for where you belong.
For a while now, I’ve felt that way about this blog.
It’s taken me a while to realize I’m watching someone else’s movie.
How it started
I started blogging to share a message: getting older doesn’t mean you have to stand by and watch your body fall apart, that staying active and eating nutritious food can help keep you strong and feeling good. I wanted to encourage women to take care of themselves in body, mind, and spirit.
Mindset Monday started when I realized that a lot of what keeps us from staying healthy and taking care of ourselves is our attitude. We get bogged down in our own fear and negativity. So, to help people get started on the right track for the week and toward a more positive mindset, Mindset Monday was born.
And then I veered off track by making the message too broad as if I was writing for everyone instead of women who want to age well.
I thought I needed to get back to my original focus — To speak to women who struggle with aging and all that goes with that, encouraging women to age well, to embrace life’s changes, to find the joy in new roles, to help build each other up.
And I’ve tried doing that for the past few months.
But that doesn’t feel quite right either and I couldn’t quite figure out why and what to do about it.
After much deliberation, I think I finally understand the root cause of my difficulty:
I’ve tried to deliver a message that I think people want to hear rather than simply saying what’s on my heart and letting the message speak for itself.
It’s like not allowing yourself to answer a question because you’re trying to say what you think the other person wants to hear. It doesn’t work and it’s exhausting.
So, it’s time for a re-shift and re-focus.
For starters, due mostly to some admin issues, starting in May I’ll no longer be using strong-woman.com.
Instead, I’ll be transitioning from strong-woman.com back to my original domain rubymontalvo.com.
Next, after much thought and deliberation, I’ve decided I’ll blog about my own story (I wanted to help women get healthy so I started a business, quit my school librarian job, but then realized what I really want to do is write so that’s what I’m doing.) and what I’m learning along the way. If you don’t know my story, you can read a more complete version here.
I hope you’ll find the stories interesting. And maybe some of what I learn can help you too.
If my story resonates with you and you still glean value from the message, I hope you continue reading.
My path isn’t crystal clear, but I’ll stick with it until I figure it out. For now, I’m planning on self-publishing my first novel, A Song for Jessica, in June 2018. You can read what it’s about here.
I have a few more steps before I get to that point so I’ll keep you posted. If any of it can encourage you on your journey then I’ll count it as a success.
So the Mindset Monday message for today is:
- When you realize you’re on a different path than you intended, you have to make a choice to stay where you are or look for where you belong.
- You may have to try different things before finding what’s just right, like Goldilocks.
- Nothing worth doing is easy. There will still be struggles, but you can figure it out. Don’t give up.