Negative and insensitive comments that can be hurtful and leave you doubting yourself and feeling stupid.
Little jabs like:
“Are you wearing that?”
“You don’t know what you’re talking about!”
“You can’t/won’t be able to do ________ .”
“Can you try to pay attention, for once?”
Off-handed remarks can float around in our heads for a long time. We analyze them to death and think, “What’s that supposed to mean?” If you’re already self-conscious or lacking confidence, negative comments can have an even bigger impact.
Positive vs. Negative
Negativity stings. Psychologists say it takes at least 10 positive comments to cancel out 1 negative comment.
How can we get past it and not let it shake our self-confidence?
Is the negative comment worth my time and consideration?
If not, consider the matter closed. Visualize yourself walking away from it. Don’t let it get to you. If it starts to re-surface, remind yourself that you’ve put it behind you.
Understand that often people are negative because it’s easier to knock things down than build them up.
Don’t worry about it. Let negativity roll off your back like water off a duck.
Blow it off like bubbles in the wind.
Do you trust the person who said it?
People speak without thinking. Feelings get hurt.
Consider giving people the benefit of the doubt instead of thinking they intend to shake your confidence.
I’d want that consideration. As much as I try to be encouraging, sometimes I speak before I think and wind up sounding negative or insensitive.
Words have power. We must choose wisely. And this applies to how we speak to ourselves too. Encourage yourself with positivity instead of speaking negativity towards yourself.
Stay focused on your goals. Be patient. Ignore negative comments. Don’t let them shake your confidence. Let them roll off your back like so you can’t remember them even if you tried.