You live out the confusions until they become clear. ~ Anaïs Nin
Have you ever found yourself in an unfamiliar role, like being a new mom or at a new job, and you realize you don’t know what you’re doing?
Like you find yourself thinking, “I don’t know what to do,” at least once a day.
Or maybe you think/say the sister statement, “I really don’t know what the hell I’m doing.”
Okay, you’re confused. You’re unsure about what to do, but you still have to do it.
Confusion isn’t the end game
Doing something new is scary and can be confusing, but you live out the confusions until they become clear. You keep working, forge ahead, keep hanging on to the people you love, keep doing the work you love, and know in your heart that at the end of the day if you’ve done your best, if you’ve been kind and loving, and done your work with joy in your heart, it will all work out okay.
That’s what it’s about, I think.
The long haul
When my kids were young and especially through the teenage years, I was often confused. I would have moments where I felt like a horrible mom, wasn’t sure I was doing the right things for them, or had made mistakes and should have done more for them.
But life demands moving forward. Parenthood demands moving forward and doing your best even if it’s not clear what “the best” is.
It may make you want to throw your hands up and say, “I’m done!”, but don’t give up. Keep going. “Live out the confusions until they become clear.”
It’s okay to be in the learning stage
I’ve said to myself at least a hundred times in the past year of writing and publishing my first novel, “I don’t know what I’m doing.” And yet, I’m doing it.
If I wouldn’t have worked through the confusion and been okay with making mistakes, I wouldn’t have gotten very far.
I had to:
- ask a lot of questions
- learn all I could
- make the best decision I could with what I knew at the time
- overcome my fear of taking action
- be okay with making mistakes
- learn from my mistakes
It’s been a long and winding road, but I’ve learned so much and the whole process is becoming more clear to me now.
If you’re at a point of confusion and uncertainty, don’t despair. Keep moving forward. Learn all you can and strive for progress, not perfection.
Live and love the best you can and clarity will be your reward.
I believe that.