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Now read this: The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker

If you only read one book this year, read The Gift of Fear – And other survival signals that protect us from violence by Gavin De Becker. 

The opening scene grabs you by the throat and tells the story of a violent attack in progress and then twists the narrative in such a way to confirm the author’s authority on the subject of fear.

To me, fear is a negative thing. Violent crime happens all the time. Shouldn’t I be afraid of that?

According to the author, no. And yes.

This book takes a close look at what fear is and how recognizing fear can be life-changing.

As I listened to the audiobook, I found myself rewinding over and over because I didn’t want to miss a single bit of insight he had to offer about the gift of fear.

Here are some of those insights (noted from the audiobook :

“Trusting intuition is the exact opposite of living in fear.”

“Unwarranted fear has assumed a power over us…It need not be this way.”

“Understanding how fear works can dramatically improve our lives.”

“Real fear is not paralyzing. It is energizing.”

“Worry, anxiety or panic, concern are not fear.”

“Worry is the fear we manufacture.”

“When worrying, ask yourself, ‘How does this serve me?’”

“What you imagine, like what you fear, is not happening.”

“Though the world is a dangerous place, it is also a safe place.”

Intuition vs. fear

I believe in the power of intuition, but always thought of it as a internal compass for making life decisions and choosing life paths in a big picture way.

But the author doesn’t touch on intuition in that context. His take on intuition takes more of a practical, in the moment, small picture way. 

That feeling you get when you walk into a room and something doesn’t feel right, for instance. You don’t know what it is and can’t explain it, but you don’t feel comfortable there. Something tells you to leave.

Do you listen? Or do you deny the feeling and rationalize that you sound like a crazy person because it’s fine. And you come up with a handful of reasons you are right to suppress that feeling. 

The author analyzes how victims of violence saved themselves by listening to their intuition.

As I listened to the book I thought of exact instances in my life when I did the latter and realized that I had failed to see that “feeling” as my intuition, failed to recognize its power. 

I recommend this book for everyone, especially people who tend to worry or fear things that could happen, but aren’t actually happening. 

So, tune into your intuition, listen to it, and act accordingly.

The Gift of Fear is a quick read. I listened to the approximately 3-hour long audiobook (abridged) on Libby.

To learn more about Libby, read Want to read more books? Maybe Libby can help on the blog.

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Discover the Value of Your Intuition

“The only real valuable thing is intuition.”  Albert Einstein

We all have it. It’s that gut feeling when you know something’s true even if you can’t explain it.  That feeling when you’re faced with a decision and you know exactly and without a doubt what you must do; when you absolutely know the right course of action.

It’s more than a hunch.

Intuition is brilliant. A guiding force. Always present, right, and true.

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Intuition is always true.

The beautiful thing is that you don’t have to do anything to get it. You already have it. All you have to do is listen.

But listening can be so, so, so hard.

Listen and you go down one road. Don’t hear, not sure, or ignore your intuition and you go down a different road.

It’s been my experience that

  • it’s better to follow, even though it’s scary
  • there’s usually a price to pay for not listening
  • intuition doesn’t hold a grudge; she will always speak to you again.

It’s your guide, your North Star.

Yes, it’s scary. I know.

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Which will you choose?

Your head screams at you:

  • What if it doesn’t work out.
  • And what if _______ happens
  • What are people going to say
  • You’re going to look stupid
  • You don’t know how to do _______
  • Think about the people you’ll disappoint.

That’s fear of the unknown and the unknown can be scary.

Einstein says intuition is the “only real valuable thing”.

Even though it must have played a huge role in his life and in his body of work, he probably had to learn to follow just like everybody else. He probably had days when he doubted himself. Doesn’t everyone?

What would happen if you discovered the value in the simplicity of listening to your intuition.

Where would it lead? 

For more on this topic, read 3 Empowering messages to tell yourself when you feel doubtful