Be patient and trust the process when it feels like you’re getting nowhere

Have you ever felt like you were fumbling along just trying to figure things out and hoping for the best? Like you don’t know what the heck you’re doing. Parenting can feel a lot like that (it did for me!), or taking a leap of faith without a net.

In a previous blogpost, What to do when you feel stuck in the weeds I covered some tips to help get you through those times when you feel unfocused, overwhelmed, or unsure you’re on the right track.

That’s what I call being in the weeds. The tips:

  1. Stay flexible
  2. Connect with people who’ve been where you are
  3. Find a process that works for you
  4. Trust the process

If you missed the post about being flexible, click hereOr the 2nd post about connecting with people who’ve been where you are, click here. Or the 3rd about finding a process that works for you, click here.

So you’ve been flexible to help you find your way back to your clear path, you’ve done your research and decided on a process to help get you there, and you’ve gotten started.

Time to trust the process

Even when you have a roadmap to get where you’re going, you’re bound to face unexpected challenges that get you off-track along the way. Weeds. Don’t let them stop you. Make adjustments and regroup if necessary, then keep moving forward and don’t give up.

But we can be impatient. We want results because we want to know that our investments — our time, effort, money — will be worthwhile.

No one likes failing. Sure it feel great to win. It’s validation. Winning validates that your work, blood, sweat, and tears have not been wasted.

Failure can be tough on the ego, on the psyche.

But what if we back it up and look at what we’re doing and trust the process.

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Use it as a guide

Maintain flexibility and tweak as necessary.

We learn best by doing and things will not always go as planned. Sometimes they’re way better than we planned, but inevitably there’ll be times when they’re way worse.

No problem. Do it again. Julia Child said, “If you’re going to have a fear of failure, you’re just never going to learn how to cook. Because cooking is lots of it — one failure after another. And that’s how you finally learn.”

That’s true for most things.

Trust the process.

A friend was transitioning to a newly designed process at work that would make her job easier.

She had trouble adjusting to the new process. When she tried applying the newfound principles she freaked out. She wanted to revert back to her old way of doing things, but that wasn’t an option.

As difficult as it was, she had to trust the process, to work through it, make mistakes, learn from her mistakes, make adjustments, and then do it again.

It took a major mental shift for her to stick with it, to not give up and trust the process.

Be patient.

Remember, failure’s part of the process.

Wayne Gretzky said, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”

Don’t let fear of failure keep you from trying.

Even when it feels like you’re getting nowhere, trust the process and keep moving forward. It’s the only way you’ll ever get on track to reach your goals.

You can do it!