What’s the point in trying so hard when no one seems to notice?
It can be discouraging when it feels like your work and effort don’t seem to matter to anyone. When you make sacrifices and work hard, but no one seems to notice or care.
I tend to look for distractions. Facebook, Yahoo and CNN headlines, dog videos.
Why? Not for inspiration.
That is all. A quick fix of something other than focusing on what I’ve committed to do. No other reason.
Can’t I just skip it?
Who’ll notice if I don’t do it?
Will anyone care?
I don’t know the answer to those questions. What gets me back on track is to remember what I know.
What I know is:
There’s value in the process.
Getting dressed for a workout means I’m physically preparing to work out even when I don’t feel like it. Sitting down at my computer to write means I’m more likely to write. The value is in the practice, learning, experience.
A deadline is a commitment. For me, meeting a deadline (even an arbitrary one) is a commitment I make to myself. If I blow off a deadline once, I’m more likely to blow it off next time and the time after that. It’s true with other things too, like exercise.
It’s the law of physics: a body in motion tends to stay in motion while a body at rest tends to stay at rest.
Getting it done is its own reward.
Getting my work done gives me the satisfaction of completing the task. I can check it off my list. When it’s done, it counts. The reward is a sense of accomplishment rather than regret or dread for not getting it done.
(Sometimes you need to rest and there’s no reason for guilt or remorse at having opted to “be lazy”.)
But if you always want to get out of it, you may need an attitude check. Remind yourself why you started. Stay motivated. Or it might be time for a change in direction. You may need to do something different.
External gratification can’t be the goal.
Decide that you don’t need anyone else to tell you what a good job you’re doing or how wonderful you are. Sure, it’s nice to hear positive comments from people, especially when you go out of your way to do something special for someone you love and they don’t acknowledge your effort. Do it because you want to, without expecting anything in return.
Once you’ve figured out what you want, (See “What do you want and how bad do you want it” if you’re having trouble figuring out what you want.) stay motivated to keep working toward your goals even when it feels like no one cares whether you do or not.
I have to remind myself of these things all the time.